Painful truth, sweet lie..

uhm.. i dunno how this sentence cross my mind while i'm daydreaming..

but i do know a bit from it - yup.. a bit from my not-so challenging-compared-to other's life..

Probably, for youngster, love case might be the first to come up when came across this sentence. Either tell ur lover sweet lie to escape from being brokeup, or tell the truth & face the pain with dignity... *so much for that*

Tiring, but i think, painful truth is much better than sweet lie. Easy for me to say, but it's much difficult for the practice. Not only in love story, so as in everyday job - jobs that involve people services. All customers do expect the best service, & with the service, they deserve to know the detail of the dealings they facing with.. Saying without giving the best out of u could cost lots, & lots of trouble, including the courts dealing, polices, families, lawyers dealing, .. etc.. *this is where ethics, no matter what kind or field, do matter*

back to the love story,.. uh,huh.. With real faces only the relationship can last long - no lies hidden *theoretically*. It's not fantasy - it can be real, but need constant patient & faith.

As-Saf, 3 - Allah swt hates person who only say but not do what does he/she said..

*_* - random writing..so i have not much of ideas..

wonders about couple living together..

I'm no doctor nor visar, but when I came across this article, I was a bit interested in writing something about this..

Here's the article that I meant:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/157454.php

The first paragraph does interest me in reading more about the research done by three researcher - Galena Rhoades, Prof Scott Stanley, & Prof Howard MArkman of University of Denver (DU)..

" University of Denver (DU) researchers find that couples who live together before they are engaged have a higher chance of getting divorced than those who wait until they are married to live together, or at least wait until they are engaged. In addition, couples who lived together before engagement and then married, reported a lower satisfaction in their marriages."

It does remind me something - a friend of mine said something like this while commenting on a movie, " Marriage is the gateway of joining 2 family (the husband's & the wife's). NOt to forget, eventhough you did not know anything about your couple, but do believe that you can give a chance to love him (since she's talking to me as a girl, so i use him) in the future."

It is actually not so bad to get to know each other AFTER marriage (not after engaged, because engagement is just like saying that couple is tagged, not tied properly) . From the old folks, they said that the wed-couple is more honest with their couple rather than dating-couple. I dunno how, but I imagine, maybe the wed-couple are more serious toward their relationship if comparing to dating couple (I guess it's up to individuals' goal of life).

About divorce, for me, it's quite a bad news - not to mention the waste of money for the wedding event, the gowns, the rental of the place (materials loss). ALso it's quite time consuming to process the documents, have to go back & forth to straightened things up... Wow, easy to say, it's tiring. Divorce also gave quite an impact for their child, psychologically, not to mention that they have imperfect family comparing to their friends. BUt, do remember, every event that occur, wether it hits like a storm or tsunami, has their meaning behind it, & it brings everyone who involved in the event to evaluate everything from the start.